Can You Find Love and Romance on the Road?

finding romance everywhere“Isn’t it hard to have a relationship when you are traveling all the time?”, people often ask me. “Do you ever have a girlfriend?”

The brutal truth is that yes, it’s very hard to have and maintain a relationship when you travel.

One of the major downsides to long-term travel is the perpetual singleness that goes along with it. When you are always on the move, you are never in one place long enough to build a lasting relationship with someone. Right as it’s about to blossom, it’s time for you to go.

But while relationships are difficult to keep, they do happen.

Years ago, I was in Cambodia. While talking to some people at my guesthouse, a group of Swedish girls sat down. One caught my eye. Or, more accurately, I caught her eye. When the group went out later, the girl and I talked mostly to each other. Four months later, we were saying goodbye in Bangkok as she boarded a flight back to Stockholm.

Once, on a tour of Uluru in Australia, I struck up a conversation with a German girl. She became my travel partner for 2 months in Australia. I stayed at her place in Brisbane, and we met up again in Amsterdam the following year.

Finding romance on the road isn’t hard.

But finding long-term romance is.

In all my situations, as much as we try to keep it going – with visits here or there, it’s hard keep it going. Absence makes the heart grow fonder for only a certain period of time.

After awhile, it forgets.

Every day all over the world, thousands of travelers get together and then quickly say goodbye as they move to the next city. Finding something that lasts more than a few days? Well, that’s hard.

That’s not to say that travel romance can’t last. I’ve met lots of couples who have met while traveling. I even attended the wedding of one couple who met on a beach in Thailand. But that’s not the norm. I’ve met more people who haven’t found that.

The reality of long-term travel is that the majority of relationships tend to be short-term with a clear start and end date.

Lots of people wish to find that special someone while sitting on a beach in Bali or exploring the streets of Paris. We have this idealistic notion of travel romance. However, the realities of your route, time tables, or flights often get in the way and it becomes much harder to really keep things going.

finding romance everywhereYou are going right, they are going left and neither wants to go the other way.

So what do people have on the road then? What I call “destination relationships.” You meet someone, you hit it off, and for that place and time, you are together.

Bonds form very quickly on the road, whether a friendship or a relationship. Without life getting in the way, people become instant best friends. And, in this case, instant couples. You don’t think about tomorrow or the person’s past. You simply enjoy each others’ company for as long as it will last. Maybe that’s 4 months in Southeast Asia. Maybe it’s a few weeks up the east coast of Australia. Or maybe it is just that week together in Amsterdam.

Destination relationships give travelers a chance at human contact — but without all the messy emotions that so often get involved. There’s no baggage. There’s a clear start and end date. There are no messy breakups. Often times you remain good friends. I still talk to the girls I’ve dated on the road. Because for that time and in that place, we had each other and then we both moved on.

No hard feelings.

People travel to explore the world for themselves, which is why so few people change their plans, even after they meet someone. It’s a big step to change your whole trip around or stop it completely because of someone else. That puts a lot of pressure on the relationship, and, most of the time, no one ever wants to think “What if I had kept traveling…” I’m a believer that if things are meant to be, they will work out. If you meet someone and it’s meant to be, it will work. Maybe not right now, but in the future.

For me, it would be nice to have something long-term. I’d love to have a travel partner. But I’m not ready to give up traveling. That is still my first love. There’s still too much I need to do for me. Maybe one day I’ll check into a hostel, find my counterpart, and we’ll travel the world together.

When people ask me about love on the road, I tell them it’s hard and it usually doesn’t last. But you never know what the future will hold, so I always keep the door open.

But, for now, what’s more important than finding love is finding myself.

  1. “what’s more important than finding love is finding myself.”

    This. This is what I keep reminding myself as all my friends back home start coupling up. Hopefully more time on the road, more time being single, makes me the fabulous person I need to be to meet the fabulous guy in my future somewhere.

  2. Hey, I met my husband while on the road–bouncing around Europe! True, it was what we deemed an “expiration relationship” at the time, but five years later we’re married. Guess we’re the exception to the rule! (And while I’m not a RTWer like you, I do travel around six months out of the year for work, so yeah, it’s hard to keep up a relationship, but that’s why it’s important to find someone as equally independent as you and who also isn’t the jealous type to envy all your fun adventures while he/she stays at home working a 9-5 job!)

  3. vasavi

    Nice read Matt.,I met my husband in Goa.. got married couple of years later.. Some ppl travel with the sole reason of finding a partner I guess.. I strongly beleive relationships happen when they are meant to happen.

  4. Well said, Matt. When I spent a year traveling the world alone, I promised myself I would steer clear of those tempting but temporary travel romances. It was lonely, but part of the point of the trip was to recover from a revolving door of dysfunctional relationships. The relationship I developed with myself helped me to grow in significant ways, which made it possible to create a much healthier relationship with the man I ultimately married. I still travel a lot, sometimes with my husband, sometimes with friends, sometimes alone. My husband alternately admires, shares, and makes room in his life for my spirit of adventure. Here’s hoping you ultimately find someone who does the same for you.

  5. Well I would need to know the girl very well first and cultivate a best friendship before traveling 24/7 together.

    Into my third year of travel I think I will stay solo.

    Good down to earth article Matt.

  6. I’ve met two of my previous boyfriends while traveling at 18 and 20. It was hard, but both relationships lasted long distance for close to a year. In a way, it was nice to have someone with out always having them on the road with you. But looking back, (and besides being young) it was extremely hard. While I believe it can work out, most aren’t cut out for that kind of relationship. And especially when you are in your 20s, traveling and experiencing things are an extremely important focus. I think I can handle loneliness in my 20s, but come 30s it might be a different story!

    Great post. Nothing like summer to bring romance to the foreground of people’s minds.

  7. Robyn

    I went on a RTW trip after university and met an American guy on the way.we both changed our plans to stay together longer and then went our seperate ways to finish our trips. A year later he moved to the uk and we’ve been living together for 2 years

  8. What a timely piece, Im going through this right now and so far Ive only had 5-day boyfriends, two months would seem like an eternity. I dont think Ill meet Mr.Right while traveling but then again, thats not what Im looking for either.

    But I can imagine how hard it is for you. I dont mind it for a year but anything longer would be a sacrifice.

  9. I am from Russia, he is from Dominica (do not confuse with Dominica Republic), we was separated for more then year and we were keeping connected through Internet. It was hard. But we are halfs of the one. Several years after we are married.

  10. Relationships are still difficult even when you are living more permanently abroad. I lived in Taiwan for two years and avoided committing myself to a relationship knowing that someday I would return home. Nonetheless, I was lucky enough to meet some amazing women so who knows what the future holds for us.. =)

  11. Great post! I was just thinking about this the other day, and I was trying to think of a name for what you have referred to as “destination relationships”. Some of those are the best ones I’ve ever had. I think it is precisely because unlike many relationships we have when we are at “home”, in these destination relationships we simply seek to enjoy life and the moment. Perhaps experiencing these can ultimately aid in teaching us what it is that makes for an amazing relationship. Ultimately being with a fellow traveler is the best experience because we get each other and the desire to live out of a backpack. This is something which few people I know from my home country understand. And sometimes, as you mentioned, there can be unexpected surprises and a long-term relationship develops where and when you had least expected it.

  12. Awesome article, Matt!
    And indeed – quite timely. I’m on the other side of the fence…having traveled WITH my partner for over 3 years, we’ve now parted company. Travel isn’t easy on long-term relationships, especially when goals and dreams aren’t perfectly aligned.
    Now, I’m happy to be “dating myself”, and doing just what you say – finding myself rather than finding love. Travel can provide so many interesting lessons on this front.

  13. I don’t know you but from what I’ve read you seem to be a great catch! Someday one lucky girl will snatch you up and she won’t let you walk away. You’ll feel the same way and in one giant leap of faith you’ll stick around or make sure that she does. Then you guys will travel the world together :)

    But I agree finding yourself is important, something I have been trying to do for years now. The harder I work at it though, the further away I seem to end up.

  14. My husband and I meet while traveling too. 10 years later we have formed our lives in order to be travel as we wish with our son in tow. We have a “traveling with baby” blog going.

  15. Good perspective, Matt. I managed to find love on the road – well, actually in an Edinburgh pub. Nicole and I have been traveling together for just under two years, but as we can’t legally reside and work in each others country, we’re doing working holidays to stay together.

  16. Joyce

    very much agree with you…. me too believes in destiny… that if two person are meant for each other, distance does not matter. what matters is whats with in their hearts and mind….:)

  17. Nice article! Well who knows what two months in NYC will bring? They say that single women outnumber single men by 3:1 (the reality is not that extreme but there’s still about a 200,000 differential so the odds are in your favour).

  18. I (and my husband) forged our relationship while traveling–just a few months after we met we left for South Asia for what became four years of backpacking together. By the end of that adventure we felt married, even though we weren’t. When we got married in the traditional sense if felt silly–thin and tepid compared to the partnership we’d forged while cresting the third 18,000 + foot pass of the day in the Himalayas, stumbling through insufficient Hindi to try and get a rickshaw driver in Jaipur to use the damn meter, visiting the Taj Majal together for the second time, wandering through war-ravaged areas of Burma, sweating it out in Angkor Wat, fending off a killer trigger fish in Thailand, and the list goes on.

    We are currently three years into our Trans-Americas Journey ( and still partners. We even advocate a bit of challenging travel together to our friends who are still trying to find their own partners. If you can emerge from the unavoidable trials of independent travel and still love each other, the unavoidable trials of so-called “real” life should be a breeze.

  19. Matt, I love this post. It reminds me of my younger days, when I bounced around Europe with a backpack, meeting people all the time, and then traveling on. I married later than most people, probably because I did move around so much (journalism is, or at least was, a career that encouraged short stints). But I’m so glad I waited for someone who shares my love for the open road and who isn’t fazed by the challenges that life throws at you. Settling down emotionally doesn’t mean standing still! Here’s hoping you find your ultimate travel companion (I’m sure you will!)

  20. I love this post. I met my boyfriend in Thailand- he was my dive instructor! I wrote it off as a fling but a year and four countries later we’re living and working together in the Cayman Islands. Its unusual, its not easy, but it makes for a great conversation starter. Reminds me the post I need to write about the red tape of dating someone from another country, especially when one is the iron bordered USA….

  21. Travel is an amazing and sure-fire way to learn about yourself, grow as a person, and become more confident. And an incredible way to meet people… I met my wife while traveling, and there’s no better way to ensure that travel and cross-cultural communication become a permanent part of your life than to marry someone from another country. You not only gain a spouse, you gain a country-in-law.

  22. Emma

    This sentence hits home: “Because for that time and place, you had each other but then you both move on.”

    I experienced this while studying abroad actually.

    No matter how much I wanted to hold on, I just couldn’t because I knew (exactly as you said) that finding myself was more important for my personal growth than finding love…

    Thanks for the great article, Matt.

  23. Mark

    I am excited about this article and all the people who choose to travel for long periods of time.
    I too would do it if I could work to support myself while away. How did you end up getting work in the islands?

    • Hi, sorry I never saw this, hopefully you are subscribed to this post. We found work in the Cayman islands the old fashioned way: email blasting every dive shop in existence. We didn’t know a soul there and it was a bit rocky to get established as the Caribbean is very expensive but I loved it. Permits are paid for by the employer and not a challenge to get. You can read more about Cayman on my blog, and now the Bahamas as well as my boyfriend has moved on to work there…

  24. Charlie

    Great article. I was just discussing this topic the other day with a fellow traveler. I have been living and teaching in Indonesia for the past 8 months while all of my friends back at home are getting married off. I realize that without this experience and self-development I would not know who I am and what I’m capable of. I believe that traveling opens us up to a whole new aspect of our being. The experiences I’ve had abroad have allowed for development and a deeper knowledge of who I am as a person. My friends who decided to go straight from university to marriage and then to starting a family, while they may be happy doing that, I feel they miss out on experiencing so much of what the world has to offer them, both externally and internally.
    While sometimes I think it would be nice to find Mr. Right, I realize that I needed this time to find out who I am first. Only then can I really know what I want in a partner, aside from the desire to travel and experience different cultures alongside me of course :) Thanks for the article!

  25. It is a really hard part of traveling, especially because I’ve found so many fantastic relationships on the road. I want travel, which makes it hard for me to find a mate at home, because most of them don’t want the same thing as me. But abroad it’s so easy. Unfortunately, the similarity leads to people eventually going their separate ways. It’s kind of fun now, but eventually it’ll get old.

  26. Nice article Matt, I spent several years traveling on a weekly basis for work with infrequent returns to my real home. It was brutal for any real relationships. It is one of the reasons that I left that job. I did meet some good people along the way, but nothing near as long as your stories.

  27. love and romance are difficult at home when you both have stable places to live and work! on the road it’s a nightmare :S but i guess good things come to those who wait and if this is the lifestyle we have chosen then we might have to wait just a little big longer! lol good luck with the search!

  28. Hi Matt, I just discovered your blog and I feel so identified with your articles. I’m an Argentinian girl trying to live as a travel writer as well, I’m in SE Asia right now… I started traveling in April 2010 and met my boyfriend in Indonesia three months later. I wasn’t looking for any kind of relationship whatsoever, but the feeling was so strong that he completely changed my schemes and plans. He’s Indonesian, we have been together since the day we met (around 7 months), though we spend a lot of time apart as well because I’m usually on the move. Right now we are apart, since my plan is to travel India, China and many more countries, and he cannot go with me at this moment. It’s hard. But I do hope things work out for us in the future… We travel writers have the love part so difficult!
    I hope you meet your travel/life partner some day!

  29. there are about 6,9 billion people living on this world… so I guess the chance to find your significant other is much higher travelling the world than staying in your small hometown…so keep on travelling! :)

  30. Great article. I was lucky, I met my partner when I was living in Vietnam and he was travelling around SE Asia. He decided to stay with me when his friends continued their travels. Three years later, we are still together.

    At first I worried that it was just a holiday romance and that I was a convenient way for him to extend his stay but then I decided to go with it and see what happens. We are now living together in Sweden, so it can happen. However, I met many people who were hoping it would happen to them too. You can’t force things to happen – just go with it.

    We are now planning to go travelling together in September and I can’t wait :-)

  31. Nicole C

    I just found your blog via my travel hero as I call her. I have to say that the last 2 paragrpahs of this sort of took my breath away because it’s something that I have struggled with. I haven’t been able to set out on my dreams yet but finding the strength to take the time for finding me is something I think I am desperately seeking. So, awesome for you to be doing what YOU want and need :)

  32. Shannon

    I know this is late, but I just read this after you reposted on your wall. I really love this post, it’s one of those posts where you want to give the writer a hug when you get to the end of it. My funny story is about a friend of mine from college – he met a girl while backpacking through Southeast Asia. She was a Scot, he was American. When he came back home, he packed up this things and moved to Scotland. They’re married now, living in Scotland and just had their first munchkin:) So sometimes these things find us where/when we’re least expecting them.

  33. I relate to this post like to any other! It is f*** hard and those who do not travel, have no idea. But at least we don’t have problems/break-ups etc on the road! Less painful and enjoy it all more!

  34. Hi Nomadic Matt,
    been enjoying flicking through your website and especially enjoyed this post because i’m not travelling but have still been single over 5 years!
    I think love and romance is just as hard while living a normal mundane settled life. At least with the people you meet travelling, you know you have something in common and there seems to be less pressure perhaps (and you can just escape from the hostel and get an early morning bus somewhere when it starts going sour!).
    I’m also a little nomadic, travelled quite a lot, so can relate to this post. Having been doing full time job now for 4 years and having recently reached 30, it’s time to go again – overland thing, UK to CT, charity thing myself and a friend have set up. Another year gone by without the possibility of long term romance!! My outlook (and possibly yours?) on the whole love/settling down thing, is at the end of the day, there’s no point hanging around waiting for that right person, you (or anyone else) must just carry on living you’re life – travelling, in yours and my case. If you meet Miss (or Mr, for me) Right then maybe things will be different and you’ll have that long term travelling partner. In the meantime, enjoy the short term romances while they last but continue with what you set out to do….you’ve got years before you need to start thinking about marriage and babies!!

  35. Rebecca

    It’s not just hard for travellers. Everyone is so transient these days anyways that it seems to be hard to find anyone who would be in one place for long enough to have a relationship – or at least that’s my experience. Even though I’ve lived in the same city for 3 years, I keep meeting people who are about to go on exchange, starting new jobs, moving back home, etc. I’ve tried staying in one place hoping I would attract something that would last longer than a few months, but nope, everyone moves around too much. Maybe I just attract/am attracted to adventurous people. If no one else is sitting still, why should I? I think it’s just about time to go to a new place.

    I like that line about finding yourself being more important than finding love. I needed to hear that. In the end, you only have yourself and your memories.

  36. It is difficult to maintain romantic relationships while traveling (or living abroad). For me, the journey I’m on independently is more important and I don’t have time for the drama/woes of entangling myself up in any kind of romantic fling that I know won’t last. The life of a monk can be lonely but the rewards are worth it.:) I see a lot of expats getting caught up in the whole dating thing, esp in Asia. I prefer not to have the distraction.

  37. Raya

    This is so true! I haven’t begun my travels yet, but I completely understand the mindset. I know that, even if I do meet someone between now and the time I leave, I will still go. And I know that I also wouldn’t want them to come with me because it’s MY journey. MY trip. MY memories. Great post, Matt!

  38. It’s tricky. I moved to Toronto for a girl I had met in Prague. But you know, life catches up to you and it’s quite hard to transition from a “destination relationship” into a conventional one.

  39. great post, I do read all! each word was like saying “i lived it” and the conclussion was the best, for me was a reminder in order to not get in love while traveling. is hard for us (girls) but not impossible!… regards from peru!.

  40. L

    I was very much concerned that my new job would take me away too much from my bf. That led me to your article. I will negotiate with my firm for a reasonable traveling plan, i.e., 50% time abroad.

    Because r/o is very important to me. I am not a believer that we have to sacrifice in order to live the kind of live we love!

    Finger crossed… Wish us best of luck and to whomever needs it!!


  41. Great post Matt,

    It’s a strange thing indeed, sometimes they just fall onto your lap, and yes, you meet some great ones- and some dodgy but it’s all part of the fun. I had to say goodbye to a great one recently. She had to return back to Germany and I still have things to do here in Borneo that are extremely important to me. Travel is the best way to meet singles that are like minded, fun and adventurous but keeping it going is truly the hard part.

    Cheers for the article


  42. Shun

    I was 18 when I took my gap year. It was a forced gap year and I had been absolutely dreading it because at the time I had no idea what to do with myself! Come January however, I got my result from Cambridge (I got accepted! :D) and I decided to book a flight for New Zealand two days after. I needed to get away from the gloom of England and boredom.
    Little did I know it would become the best year of my life!

    I travelled up to the Bay of Islands, met tons of people, tried my hand at jet skiing for the first time, but it was down in Rotorua where I met someone really really special at a bus stop while I was waiting to go Zorbing with two Canadians and an Australian I’d met the day before. She walked across the road and we got talking and she decided to come with us. I didn’t know it at the time, but that day we would hit it off immensely (she was only 16 at the time too and it was really impressive!) and that night she cancelled ALL of her bookings for the next week so she could stay with me.. crazy! We then spent the next 4 weeks travelling together.. we miraculously found a stay in Wellington during the Rugby 7’s (we stayed with some of her friends’ parents) with whom we had an amazing time, explored Abel Tasman beach together, wrote little notes and hid them in the sand so we could dig them up in a few years.. we went scuba diving for the first time together too with two marine biologists! I had never met anyone quite like her and although I don’t believe in the fairytale ending, I was going to make an exception for her.

    We both cried at Auckland airport and we swore we would stay together. She flew back to the USA and I flew back to the UK. We worked our asses off for the next 3 months and earned a bucketload of money. I flew over on May 29th 2012 and we were finally re-united! This time, we spent 3 whole months together, travelling, we went camping in the Porkies in Michigan (my first time Camping properly), went to the water parks in the Wisconsin Dells, hiked around in Boulder, Colorado, got certified as scuba divers in the Florida Keys too! I met all of her family and they were all so lovely.. it was amazing that we could still love each other so much even though we spent every DAY together. Trouble is, the relationship was difficult in a way.. before I met her, I felt like I had hit rock bottom emotionally.
    I had essentially run away from England because of the hurt one girl put me through, and then I visited a friend I had kept in touch with for over a year (who used to live near me but her whole family moved to NZ) who I thought was a true friend but ended up being pretty dismissive and terrible! I found it hard to handle my new girlfriend’s past, as silly as that seems now to me, and that sparked arguments.

    When I got back from the US, it was truly heartbreaking. Going from seeing the only girl you’ve ever truly loved (I’ve dated a lot of people!) every day to only seeing their pixelated face on Skype.. it’s so painful. And I knew I would be at university in the next month. I began to let doubts creep in – I was afraid because I had never been so emotionally invested in anything. I began picking fights over nothing. To my brain that was justification for a terrible, impulsive end.
    Before I knew what had happened, during the middle of a big fight, I had changed my relationship status on Facebook and said hurtful things to the girl I loved with all my heart. The subconscious part of my brain had taken over and was trying to protect me from the perceived future hurt of a breakup.. it knew that I had really fallen for this girl, and that I would fall for her even more if it continued. As soon as it happened, I knew I had made a terrible mistake. I desperately apologized, and frustratingly tried to explain what had happened, and that I loved her more than anything.. .but she’d had enough.

    I’ve never met anyone like her. I’m not sure I will again. The last time I cried like this was when I was 10 I think. I have never really regretted anything up until now. My gap year has been the best year of my life. I learnt so many valuable lessons. That was my story..

  43. Good read,

    Definitely something that I think about from time to time. I still have a lot of faith though. You can see just from reading these comments that it absolutely does happen. But I am ok if it does not. Pros and cons to everything. My goal of traveling the world long term will definitely be a lot easier without any baggage, kids especially.

  44. Stumbled upon your blog looking for int’l credit card tips and got hooked on all your great content! I moved to Thailand a year ago from the US and this blog post hits the nail right on the head. “Destination Relationship” is the perfect term… Enjoying your website, keep rockin man!

  45. Hey Matt,
    I enjoyed this article buddy.. I met my girlfriend when working in Spain and we have traveled Australia together and now on a whv in New Zealand.

    I think as a couple compromise is a key factor. I have friends who went to South America via different routes (one landed in Panama, one Argentina) and they traveled for 2 months before meeting up and had great stories for when they met.

    When you are in a couple sometimes you can be isolated, as you do your own thing together and this is why I like solo travel.. When you travel on your own, you are more inclined to talk to strangers, go on little adventures with randomers..etc..

    Each has there perks and disadvantages but I guess it all just depends on where the road takes each individual. We all have our own plans and dreams, and when it is time to separate, sometimes that is just life and how it is meant to be..

    All the best with your travels, love the blog dude…

  46. My wife and I are fortunately like-minded, and have quite a harmonious relationship. There are, of course, tough times when you’re travelling – like the morning after an overnight bus ride in South America, or a flight when you’ve just lost 7 hours!

    However, on the whole, travelling and relationships (as long as you’re travelling together) can never be a bad thing. It sounds corny, but you really have an opportunity to share the most amazing things in life, and grow as people together.

  47. L.

    Dear NomadicMatt,

    it looks like your article is holding with time. And indeed is a good piece filling a contemporary need. Sometimes it is just great to find out that our own escape is a general rush; it feels just right being buffered in a dynamic (though virtual) solution of other lonely, hungry searchers, adventurers, explorers. Now the desire of being understood is being filled, maybe in a different time (as your post and our readings and comments differ), yet instantly satisfied.
    Thank you.

    I wish to give you something back, something little. Something that might maybe keep you company in the winter months when people are less looking around to organize their vacation. “But for now, what’s more important than finding love is finding myself.” Maybe, maybe, it is the same thing.

    Good luck on the road, it is a long one.

    My best,

  48. Hi Matt, I totally agreed with you it is hard to maintain the relationship when traveling. I met one Thai girl in Thailand while I had stayed in Thailand for 3 months. We were in good relationship in the period. I even didn’t want to leave Thailand. However, it was time to leave for my journey in Southeast Asia. We are still in contact and keep our relationship. It’s very tough to manage but it can be done indeed.

  49. Phil

    Love this article Matt. Im currently going through an experience and need help and advice. Im travelling Australia, with no return date planned yet. I’ve met a wonderful girl, and I feel the sparks are flying. But im getting so many mixed signals. One minute shes telling her friends all about me and im meeting her family, then the next, I’m being told that she doesn’t want to get too close incase I go home in a couple of months. Not 100% where to go from here?

  50. Hi!

    I actually met my boyfriend on the road. He’s polish and I’m peruvian. I was traveling around Europe last year and I met him on couchsurfing. We agreed to hitchhike around Poland and that’s how all started.
    Now we’re in a relationship for almost a year but I’m in Peru and he’s in Poland. The good news is that he’s coming in 1 month and we’re going to travel around South America!! 😀

    You’re right, when it’s meant to be, it will work out.

  51. This article was so relevant. I’ve been with my boyfriend 9 months and we’re both chronic travelers. We know the relationship has an expiration date because we both want to move to different countries, so I’m wondering if I should just break things off now before they get even heavier? or just ride it out and see where things go? I still have another year left of school (so I have to be stationary).

    Catching feelings is no fun

  52. Hi Matt,
    Great post for I, too, have found and lost love on the road but the part that struck out for me was the very last sentence. ‘ But more importantly than finding love, is finding myself.’
    As an expert traveler, do you think that now, after so many years, your identity will be found hiding in a small corner of the world? If you haven’t found it now, will you? What was your intent and/or meaning of that last statement?
    Thanks for all the great info. See you on your LA stop.

  53. Addie

    I agree with most of what’s written above. I think it boils down to a few truths:
    1) Allways be emotionally and physically available. Who knows what could come of that? Try.
    2) There’s never a “perfect time” for lust/love. You’ll know when, and if its while traveling, you’re in your element. Welcome the fuck out of it, while not thinking of the future. (Yet!) 3). Travel; pursuing your dreams, is about a rare, delicious kind of freedom. It is you at your best. You’re not alone, and don’t want to have any regrets.
    4). What would life be without the possibility of love? Dare to enhance that supreme sunset with a kiss or a topless beach or more. Not so hard. An asteroid could hit the Earth this evening.
    4). How boring would the world be if we were all headed towards the same destination? On the same path? Embrace each others’ journeys, knowing you’ll have more to offer each other for it when you meet up for that beer. Travel is the *only* aphrodisiac.
    5). You don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone.

    Good luck to us all,

  54. Ahmed

    Well I agree.
    I am a solo traveler, I have been traveling for so many years without any relationship as I don’t like the unhappy goodbyes.
    But that one day has came when i met my girlfriend in Thailand by accident, and by next summer is our wedding.
    at the end you will have so many sad goodbyes but also you may see your destiny.
    just explore the world

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