Updated: 11/28/19 | November 28th, 2019
“You’re going home?” I asked her as we sat in the hostel’s common room.
“Yeah, I really miss my boyfriend and family. This long-term travel thing just isn’t for me. I’ve cut my trip short and will be going home in a few weeks.”
“Wow,” I replied. It’s not often you hear travelers say they going home early. “Well, it’s important to do what makes you happy. At the very least, traveling taught you something about what you do and do not like. That’s a win.”
And, with that, we moved on with the conversation.
She, like many others I’ve met on the road, headed back home, not in defeat, but victorious, content in the knowledge they discovered more about themselves.
When I began my travels, a million and one fears and worst-case scenarios went through my mind.
What if I can’t make it?
What if I get so lost I can’t find my way back?
What if I run out of money?
What if, what if, what if!
Thanks to the many emails I get, I know those thoughts go through the minds of others too.
Many of those “what ifs” keep people from going on the road. We can become so paralyzed by our fear of failure that we forget that all those fears don’t matter because no matter what happens, we can always come home.
It’s OK to say, “You know what? I miss my home, I miss my friends, I hate hostels, and it turns out my idea of travel involves moving from one luxury resort to the next.”
The most important thing is that you tried and you learned.
I had no idea long-term travel would work for me. My original trip was only for a year, and I could have decided to come home three months in.
But, here I am, over ten years later, still in love with travel. I would have never known if I didn’t ignore my fears and try.
We can give in to fear, the “what ifs,” and the worry, and instead stay safe at home. Or you can head out the door and try.
Who cares if you decide to cut your trip short? Who cares if you think “this life isn’t for me?” You travel for yourself. You do this for you.
When I decided years ago it was time to settle down and create roots somewhere, a lot of people emailed me, expressing sadness that I had “given up” traveling.
But times — and people — change.
I had nothing to prove by continuing to travel when my desires lay elsewhere. Travel is a personal experience and at the end of the day, how you feel about it is the only thing that matters. I still believe life on the road is amazing — but sometimes I want to head off that road for a while and sit in front of my TV watching a movie.
So if you’ve been thinking about traveling but worry you can’t make it a full year around the world or that you might not have the skills to travel, I say to you: Who cares? You can always head home if you want.
So what if you can’t make it? What if others think that? I say it doesn’t matter.
Because going home is not a failure.
Travel teaches us about ourselves and makes us better people. Deciding to come home simply means travel taught you something about yourself you wouldn’t have known otherwise — that extended travel is not for you.
And there is nothing wrong with that.
A lot of people don’t want to travel long term. A lot of people don’t like travel in general!
But you will never know what you do or don’t like if you don’t push yourself out of your comfort zone a little bit.
And travel is always something that pushes you out of your comfort zone.
Don’t worry if you don’t like it.
Because there will always be a path back. Home will always be there.
So travel and learn something about yourself.
Even if what you learn is you’d rather be home than in a hostel.
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Emma
I really love this post.
Nick
What would you say to someone whose health problems created a sort of forced retirement from travel? I thought about it quite a bit, and there are many positives to take away from the time I did travel, but now being at home does feel like failure. Or at least a resignation of some type
Helen
Great post, each to their own! Travel isn’t for everyone, but hey, it is for me.
Nick – you tried, that’s all that matters, I don’t think the word failure could even be applied here at all.
Kristen
THANK YOU. I feel like so many travel bloggers post about how annoying the general populace is for not wanting to be long-term travelers with nothing to their name except two shirts. It’s so refreshing to see someone say, “You know what? Whatever you want to do to make you happy. Just get out there.” I recently did a few months in SE Asia and decided to come home two weeks early for many of the same reasons – I realized how I like traveling and I missed my family! Now I’m home but already saving for my next trip and I will take the lessons I learned before in planning the next spurt of travel – a couple of weeks, partly solo, partly with others. That’s what makes me happy.
Adam
The way I have always looked at it is this… If you set off and travel the world, it might be for a few months or go on for years.. Worst case scenario – you go home… It’s not necessarily a failure, but at least you tried!
Ryan
Great post, and a very important point that I think we can forget while traveling for an extended period.
T.S. Eliot put it perfectly when he said: “We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring, will be to arrive where we started, and know the place for the first time.”
Mark C
My girlfriend and I are planning a long term trip for next year. We both think we’re going to love long term travel, but we’ve had this very discussion. Worst case scenario is we come home early.
I have a couple of chronic medical issues that I’m hoping to keep in check while on the road. I’m nervous about going off meds or switching to less effective but more travel friendly options. But there’s only way to find out if I can do it.
NomadicMatt
Like you said, worst case scenario is you come home. That’s not so bad.
Lauren Meshkin
If I listened to every “what if” in my head, I’d never leave my house. I would respect someone more for trying and failing then not trying at all. However, as you mentioned, choosing to come home shouldn’t be considered a failure. More people should realize this.
Thank you for this! Happy travels 🙂
Anna
It’s good to go and figure out your limits and reach that point where you think – yep, think I’m done here. I was so happy to go home after six months travelling. A couple of months settled and the bug is back again. I’ve found trying to really live in a new country is good balance of a home away from home.
Great post also (duh).
Beverley
I didn’t have any choice in coming home; the Essential Skills Visa I’d applied for in New Zealand got declined and (due to my WHV expiring) I couldn’t appeal. At first I felt like a total failure, like I could’ve done more to try and secure the visa, I could’ve put together a back-up plan etc etc but instead I decided to do something I’ve always wanted to do: move to London. I’ve lived in England my entire life and never got to experience actually living in the capital so that’s what I’m doing right now.
It’s not failure, it’s a brand new chapter and I’ve come back with a more open mind, a new set of friends from all over the world and a completely new perspective 🙂
NomadicMatt
It’s like Edison said, he didn’t fail, he just found 1,000 ways that didn’t work!
Travis
I love this post. A few years ago I set out on an internship that I intended to turn into a much longer excursion, convinced I wanted to work all over the world, and especially far away from home. I spent two and a half months there before booking a flight home. I will still travel, but my time abroad taught me new things about myself (as I find it always does) and I discovered that home was where I was meant to be. I am still a traveler. I spend my days exploring as much as I can close to home and writing about my experiences, and I still travel abroad when I feel the urge.
Thank you for sharing this post!
NomadicMatt
Travel, live, learn, right? Glad it worked out for you.
Lily Aldrin
I can relate to this, almost two years ago (to the day!) I was supposed to be spending three months in America, unfortunately my mother was very ill a few months before the trip. I ended up supporting my family financially and as a result my trip was cut form three months to three weeks. My friend who I was supposed travelling with ended up carrying on with the trip alone, whilst I flew back to the UK and to work. I felt like such a failure and that I’d let my friend down, add to this the crushed dream of travelling and having to save for a further trip three months down the line meant the flight home was a very emotional one. The guilt was heavy on my shoulders from all sides, firstly that I had chosen to go in the first place whilst my mother was still recovering and because my friend was alone, nervous and gave me a forlorn, lost child look as the subway started moving away from him… Further to this at home I had parents of close friends describing the change of plans as abandonment.
Perspective is a wonderful thing, two years later and eighteen months of travelling under my belt I realise that it was the best decision for me. Had anything happened to my mother whilst I was away, financially or physically I would never have forgiven myself. My friend had a wonderful time without me, volunteered at an animal sanctuary and will be pursuing a new career path when we get back to the UK in December.
To all those gossipers, walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, reflect on the decision you would make before slandering someone else and their circumstances… and to all those people who have to make difficult decisions, everyone has different circumstances, do what is right for you and all will be well in the world ?
Steph
Excellent post, Matt. I feel like so often long-term travelers feel like they have to prove something or turn traveling into a competition: the longer you’re gone, the more cred you have. But the reality is, most of us will have to go home at some point, either because we are tired and need a break from traveling, or maybe because we’ve run out of money and need time to regroup. Either way, it’s not the end of the world; you can always head back out in the future if the desire strikes. Whether people travel for 1 month or 1 year or 1 decade, I think the most important thing is that people make the effort to see a little something about the world and push themselves. As you said, things not working out as planned or not liking something isn’t a failure, but never trying in the first place is!
Michela
Love this post and its message! I have seen lots of people competing with others and themselves when on the road. By doing so they miss the real point of travel which is a learning process and not a competition. As we all experiences travel in a different way we shall learn and improve our self no matter in which direction it takes us…travel is finally something that makes us richer 🙂
Cat
I’ve just sent this to multiple friends who I’ve met along the road, and you’re right – you tried, and you learned. No one can take that away from you, as actually purchasing the ticket and stepping on the plane is the hardest part. My stubbornness meant I wasn’t going to come home before my time was up (well, I’m still here), but I respect those who decided it’s not for them and go back home. Great, touching post.
NomadicMatt
Glad you liked it! Thanks for sharing it with your friends!
Natasha
I agree with your thoughts. There really are no rules and no expectations when you decide to live life on the road . However we definitely need to always remain true to our authentic selves. If the game plan changes, so be it. Loved this post !
Kristy
I dream of full time travel, and I did it once, for about a year. But then reality when I came back home was the gap in my resume. Even though I had a solid resume from prior to taking time off, employers didn’t understand the need to take a break and see the world, and frowned upon not working for over a year. So now as I really want to travel again, the thought of if I can get hired after taking time off, is what is keeping me from long term travel. Has anyone had experience with how to deal with employment after you return home?
NomadicMatt
How long ago was this? From what I understand, these days employers are interested in employees with travel skills.
carlisdm
I’m working very hard to achieve my dream of traveling the world. My main concern at the moment is money. I’m from Bolivia and currenlty live in this country, employment incomes are not very high for traveling abroad, they are ok for living here but with 500 $us a month you wouldn’t make it abroad. I had the chance to travel previously a little bit around Europe and I really want to go out there and visit many other countries. This is my dream and I want to achieve it. Luckily there seem to be many opportunities online to generate incomes and I’m working on them. My objective is to get a permanent online income that will allow me to embark in this lifelong dream that I have. Reading this blog always keep me encouraged. Thanks Matt!!!
NomadicMatt
Start local. Visit other parts of your country or other parts of South America if you can’t go far away. Travel starts at home.
carlisdm
Thanks! I will surely do that!
Kristin Addis
That’s a great way to look at it. If the fear of running out of money or discovering backpacking wasn’t for me kept me from traveling I would never have seen all that I got to see last year. Though, most people I met didn’t head home early. Most were really happy to be traveling. The boyfriend thing does tend to ruin the fun of backpacking, though.
Flora
It’s such a common feeling amongst travellers that you’ve somehow failed if you’re not willing to keep on travelling ad finitum. But it’s simply not the best idea for everybody – and if you can recognise what it is that makes you happy then that’s the best discovery you’ll have 🙂 Awesome post, Matt.
Ellen Keith
Thanks for sharing your input on this, Matt. I know I shouldn’t, but I have a tendency to feel guilty when I return home earlier than planned. Even after ten months abroad, I was disappointed in myself for wanting to return to a bit of a routine. You have a good attitude about this!
NomadicMatt
I think you have to find a balance. There were many times I wanted to go home but I really was just having a bad day. However, if those bad days add up, it’s time to rethink your trip.
Alyssa
I totally agree – but I do always wonder if those people ever regret it later. So many people I knew left the program early because they didn’t like the place or missed their boyfriend, etc and I wonder if they think what might have happened if they had just stuck out the bad parts. I find the accomplishment there: finding good in the shit times is character building.
Yours in Travel,
Alyssa
Kelly
Yup! My life is my own, not a competition. I came home from a trip early (9 instead of 11 days) because I was just tired! And I missed my son. And there were threats of nuclear war (I go to the BEST countries! lol) But we all have our reasons and you can always go back if you feel you were missing out on something.
One time I travelled just because I needed a break from taking care of my dying father. While I was away, I got a different perspective and realized I had a great honour to do it. It meant I came back happier and did not take the last moments of my father’s life for granted. So sometimes you get a lot of good out of coming home.
Beto
Last year while trekking solo across Europe in remote working fashion I had this feeling at least twice. It wasn’t lack of resources, nor getting sick, nor anything like that. It was the unavoidable gaps of loneliness between one place and another that were getting to me. One day I felt I had enough and was ready to call it quits but thankfully my family has been very supportive of me while on the road — and bless technology for that. I can only figure out how hard it must have been for travelers of yesteryear, getting by for months or even years without hearing back from their families. At least I learned what can bring me down during long term travel so now that I’m heading to South America in a few months and looking for more socially conductive environments, like hostels (even if I fear I’m a little too old for them!) But as I heard Rick Steves speak a while ago, fear is for those who don’t get out too much. 🙂
NomadicMatt
I think we all have moments we have to push through…moments of self-doubt…but sometimes there are moments when you know in your core, it’s time to go home.
Don
Absolutely can relate to this. I’ve cut lots of trips short even though I had the ability to continue, most recently in South America earlier this year. When your travels begin to wear you out rather than give you energy and when traveling onward doesn’t make sense, go home, or somewhere, and regroup. You never regret it looking back, and it gives you perspective and allows you to begin planing another trip that can benefit you even more.
Too many travelers wear their months on the road like a badge of honor. If it no longer makes sense for you, don’t do it.
NomadicMatt
Exactly. It’s quality not quantity.
Sean
Hey Matt.
Great post. I totally agree with you.
Travel should not be seen as a prison sentence of sorts. Just because you thought you would travel for a year, and told everyone so, doesn’t mean you should be held to that against your will. Things change, priorities change, and most importantly: people change.
I have been on the road for about 8 months and I would be lying if I said there were not times I wanted to go home. The feeling of getting into a familiar bed is certainly comforting. I haven’t gone home as yet, but if I did I would not feel like a failure at all. Remember: if you go home 3 or 4 or how ever months into your trip, you STILL did travel for that time. Don’t forget that.
Anyway, I can’t even imagine what it must have been like to travel for 6 odd years. Respect! Good on you for everything you have done and enjoy your well-earned break!
Cheers,
Sean.
Laura
This post resonates with what I am currently going thorough – I cut my trip short as I missed my boyfriend, friends, family etc and am planning on going away for a month at a time about 4-6 times a year.
However, as happy as this decision makes me there is a part of me everyday that longs to just be ‘out there’ without an end date. It was exciting and scary and I loved it.
If I were to do that I would have to break up with my boyfriend (it wouldn’t be fair on him) and I don’t know if I have it in me to that – he’s the best!
Anyway, thanks for the blog post. Made me feel slightly better but that niggly feeling I made the wrong decision is still there…
Melissa
Hi Matt,
I completely agree! I had the realization this summer when I traveled through Europe for two months that I don’t like to travel for much more than a month. At first, I wondered what that meant about me as a traveler, and I came to this conclusion: I am absolutely a traveler with wanderlust in my heart, but I love my home, too, and that’s more than okay. 🙂
Barbara
Good to hear I’m not alone. Hubby retired last year and we sold our home and most of our belongings and headed out on the road in a 5th Wheel. 18 months later and I’ve realized this is not the life for me…I still enjoy traveling, but I need a home-base as well, so we’re looking to settle somewhere near the ocean. Unfortunately, in our case, it is the life that my husband would like, but we will compromise and travel part of the year.
NomadicMatt
That’s a realization I’ve come to over the last year or so. I now have a home base in NYC and then travel from here. I enjoy having a kitchen.
stevie
I totally agree! Travelling, or long term travelling just isn’t for everyone. I’ve been travelling (although with lots of stops at home!) for about 5 years and a lot of my friends have told me “oh I should travel” or “I wish I could travel”. Honestly, though, if they aren’t making active moves towards that goal, I suggest that maybe it isn’t right for them. Travel is an expensive and sometimes stressful and if someone can think of a million things they’d rather do than I don’t think they will truly benefit from the experience anyway.
Alex
This is great Matt!…When I was in college in Orlando my first ever trip was to Paris, by myself, when I was 19. I was too scared to leave town and cut my trip short….Fast forward 3 years and I’m backpacking through Europe for a few months where I met my eventual Aussie spouse in a hostel in Brugge. We’ve now been living in Europe for 5 and 1/2 years…So you’re absolutely right, there is no failure in going home! You never know what lies ahead and good on anybody for giving it a go! 🙂
Peter Shaw
Great post mate, some good points. I think there just comes a time for everyone when they just feel that perhaps they have had enough. Some people can go or longer than others, so I agree that it’s all a personal preference. I find travel for me works best in small bursts so from 6 to 8 months at a time, then I need a break before starting over.
KevinN G
good points, great attitude. the ‘hard-core’ travelers who are always bragging about the hardships they have endured, trying to “one-up” every one else in earshot get sooo tiresome -as if you are not human if you haven’t been shot at, arrested, held in a Communist jail cell, had a shark take a piece of your leg, stayed up for 84 hours straight on a train.. gone 3 weeks without food or water, had dysentery, malaria, yellow fever, typhoid fever, etc., etc. yayayadadadadada boring..
NomadicMatt
Wow! I haven’t done any of that. I really need to up my travel game! New travel goals, maybe? 🙂
Di
I love this post! I have always wondered what my life would have been like if I hadn’t taken the job I am currently in and had gone off to travel the world instead. However there is nothing stopping me from making the most of my three weeks leave a year to visit some place new!
Caroline
I really love this post and its certainly struck a chord with me. I’ve been home for 2 months after being away 10 months, I came home 2 months early as I just felt it was time. Seeing all my traveller friends face books I feel like a loser sometimes because I’m at home and maybe I failed. But you’re right I never failed! I just ended a great experience and there’s no shame in that. I just needed to re-charge my batteries and get back out there.
GiselleandCody
Great post Matt!!
I think the most important thing is that people do what makes them happy.
Some try to stay on the road as long as possible but you’re right when you say it’s not failing if you decide to go home early. We went home for 2 months to visit friends and family after being on the road for 16 months. It was nice to see familiar faces and then head back out again.
Kristine
This is a really great post Matt. I’ve been reading travel blogs and did a one month travel to Europe a few months ago. But I just took a vacation leave from work to do that and I was happy to be back home and find my job waiting for me with open arms.
I’ve read lots of travel blogs saying that we “regular folk” are boring and that we suck because we still keep up with our routinary lifestyle– wake up in the morning, go to work, go home, then do it all over again the next day. They keep saying, “Ditch that 9 to 5 and pack up your bags and go.” I know travel can be fun. Travel is a great learning experience and I have benefited a lot from a month’s travel. But not all people can just up and leave. A lot of us “regular folk” have parents or siblings to support, loans to pay, or health issues that have to be dealt with. And there are also a lot of us who feel safe and secure seeing that monthly, consistent paycheck come our way from “regular jobs.”
I admire these bloggers and I admire how they’ve constantly adapted to their ever changing environments. But we who go home or don’t opt for a life on the road are not less of a person than they are.
The only failure is not learning from traveling and being selfish with all that travel knowledge and bragging about it instead like you’ve conquered the world or something.
Kim
I agree and I’m glad you said it. When I left to travel I figured, well, if I hate it at least I’ve learned one more lesson about what I don’t like. Going home isn’t a failure… the most important thing is that you give it a shot no matter the outcome.
Dana
My boyfriend and I are teachers and travel on breaks. The last two summers have been road trips of 54 and 45 days. This summer went from 52 to 45. We were tired and just wanted to go home. Some told us we were crazy. We told them they had no idea!
Brian Evidente
Thanks for this post Matt. Most of the posts I’ve read from you and other nomadic travellers are about the how to’s – how to save, how to work overseas, etc. This shows us that if you guys can do it, so can we. But this post, teaches us why we should do it in the first place. Why we should take a leap of faith and not be afraid of failing or of the what ifs. Very inspiring. Thanks again.
Lisa
I am in this position right now, i am currently in Australia but really want to go home, i have been here just under 2 months (not long i know) and i have a years visa, i have done bits, but want to do more, but i am not getting excited by the prospect of it as all i keep thinking about is going home, i do feel like i am failing, and often ask myself what is wrong with me, i have worked so hard to get here…!
i feel like i am stuck between a rock and a hard place.
i know i want to and will do more travelling but maybe not for such a long scary timescale!
am i not giving it long enough to get adjusted and keep going, or seriously look at heading back a more than likely very cold UK.
thanks for any comments anyone has. 🙂
Em
I know how that feels Lisa. I have been in Canada for five months and all I can think about is missing family and my old job and work colleagues, even though I know they are not thinking of me and have their own lives….. It sucks big time, I love being in Canada, despite how some things have worked out for me. I moved here for a man I loved deeply and this has not worked out, but I am now torn between staying here with beautiful scenery and friendly people and moving back to the cold grey skies of England…. All I have in England is my parents/family and a half decent job. I am sure I could find a decent job here if I wanted to, but every time I look into this my heart is not in it….I don’t want to give up on my dream and know if I really tried it could work, it is just getting myself thinking positive….so hard, so homesick!
Christine
Lisa, I know I am 3 years late but I just stumbled upon this article because I was having the same feelings.
Literally the exact situation you were in, almost 3 months in and I’m starting to notice I get very irritable and frustrated a lot faster than I normally do. I realize that may be a result in me not enjoying long term travel. Don’t get me wrong ILOVE travel but this trip has made me realize I love the short term travel I plan a couple times a year back home.
I liked and miss my routine I had at home and though I have done some great things here in Australia (trust me many more on my list) but getting low on money has been dragging on me as well as all I can think about it going home to my room, my bed, my belongings. I don’t like living out of a suitcase or hostels or not having mostly everything planned. I’m a creature of habit and I do miss that about myself.
Any chance you found this and let me know what decision you made and how you got to that decision? Thank you!
Em
My story is similar, but with a few differences. I had traveled to Canada several times, on tours and by myself for ten years. I met a man on one of those tours whom I liked a lot and we kept in touch. Anyway, I took a year off from my job in the UK in April 2013 to come and live in Canada, as I had a visa and wanted to try living here. I also wanted to give the man I met a chance and see if things could work out between us living in the same place. I cared about him deeply and wanted to see if things could work between us. Anyway, long story short, Two months into moving here he rejected me and told me to get out of his life and no longer talks, texts or emails me – all because I told him I had feelings for him and cared about him…..he just wanted fun…I was devestated and it hurt so much, still does a little. I am still in Canada three months on from this, but am considering going home. I love the scenery, being near the ocean, lakes and the friendliness of the people, but don’t like the job or working here, as things are so different. Also being all alone 3000 miles away from family is so very hard.
I have a job and home to go back to, but am so torn between both places. Home is not nearly as beautiful as where I currently am, in terms of scenery and the people are not as friendly. Both places have pros and cons, I know I will miss this place, if I go home for good, but I have a good job and home to go back to. I am going back at Christmas to clear my head and try and decide what is best for me. I love Canada and feel like I would be a failure if I did not continue living here and would lose the visa I worked very hard to get, but I miss my family, old job and people I worked with. I know I have been very lucky to have this opportunity and I am so very grateful for all the experiences, but am stuck now. Don’t want to lose my visa, but don’t like the job or working over here either. I enjoyed my old job, and I know it is sad, but I keep hoping I can work things out with the man I care about. I wish I could have the best of both worlds……..
Georgia
I recently made the decision to go to go to Australia for 6 months with my friend to work and travel. We’re living in Central Sydney and not doing backpacking but it’s two weeks in a I’m incredibly homesick and I want to go home to my family and normality. I’ve been told to give it until January but I’m not sure if I can handle staying for that long because I just want to leave and go home. Am I weak because I want to go home so early in my trip? Any advice would be appreciated
NomadicMatt
Have you made an effort to make friends, see the city, go out, do stuff? I often find that when you get homesick, you just sort of shut off and don’t do anything, which only perpetuates the feeling.
If you have made an effort to go out and get friends and build a life in Sydney and still feel this way, maybe you should give some thought to going home.
Bhavik
I have been in Australia for just under two months now and have been travelling 6 weeks prior to getting here in SE Asia. I previously applied for a WHV which expired back in 2011, so I actually made it down under at my second attempt…Now I am here however I don’t feel I have taken to Australia and want to go home. people would think its mad to go back to the cold in UK, but home would always be home I guess. I’m not giving up yet and trying to push till January, but each time I find my self constantly thinking about going home. I have loved every moment of my time while travelling and maybe its just something I needed to get out my system. I think I have learnt that I appreciate smaller trips greater. But on the other hand its only been around three months?! I planned to stay till at least June 2014. I always thought that if I didn’t enjoy it I would continue travelling and go to another country, but now I don’t feel I have the same enthusiasm and home is where feel like going.
Clare
Thank you for this post.
I live your posts ans have been reading them since i decided fo travel 18months ago. Since then i have made some major sacrifices to be able to travel an and d am now 2 weeks into a 4 month trip and not enjoying myself at all.
I am travelling alone and am missing my home, friends, family and boyfriend morr than i thought iimaginable. I have felt like a failure for.feeling this way but thank you for an honest post which has shown me that if I do go.home early I have not faile not for me. It will also but learnt that solo travel is
Karl
Great post.
I saved for a year and a half to travel SE Asja solo for about six months. I’m still here, three weeks in and have just been dealt a major blow in learning that I must return home as I want to go to law school in Sep 2014, and I am required to attend interviews and preliminary exams in February.
I was worried (and still a little am) in explaining to everyone at home why I’ve come home so early after saving for so long and looking like I’ve “failed” but in my heart of hearts I know that it’s not the end of the world. Yes there are issues still worrying me like finding employment for the interim, and I’ll obviously still have a lot of my travel fund left over this helps too.
In a way I’m a little relieved too, I admit these initial weeks I’ve struggled with being on my own, but you know what – I KNOW that about myself now, and for future travelling it’s a lesson learned.
Ben
Very true words. Both myself and my partner/travel buddy Caroline have come to learn things about ourselves since being on the road. We have learnt that speed of travel can make a huge difference depending on your mood. Speed and sticking to an itinerary can get you through without ever having downtime or letting boredom set in. Chilling out in one place for an extended time can regenerate and spark you up. Also, beaches look nice but get boring quickly!
Lately it has even nudged us towards thoughts of our future together, researching mortgage loans, thinking where in the world we can work and how will we ever be able to travel with kids? It is amazing what a new place and some time can make you realise.
Joe
What do you think about going home for a short break then carrying on with travelling.
I been 6 months travelling and kind of lost my wanderlust, I think a short trip home will get me to want to go back travelling.
What’s do you think?
Samantha
This post is really resonant with me right now. Me and my partner went on a working holiday to Australia last november. We did our 3 months farm work to get our second year visa, and then we travelled for about 5 weeks before having to stop for work. We were so intent on following our set route, we ended up staying in one hostel and working for our accommodation for a month, and we loved it there so applied for loads of jobs, but we were unsuccessful. I’d already tried working as a waitress in the evenings while we were at the farm, and got fired after 3 weeks because I was so bad at it! We moved to Brisbane, ended up in a really expensive hostel and then decided we were missing home and flew home at the end of April this year. Some days I feel like we failed, and that we could have made it work somehow, but if I think back to the conversations we had at the time, it was like we were looking for any excuse to come home. We definitely learnt some valuable lessons, from what not to pack, to how to live on little money, (and that I will never be a waitress again!) and it definitely wasn’t a wasted trip. I’ve been reading your inspiration pages Matt, and we are going to try again next year! Thank you x
Meagan
Thanks for being a constant companion on the road Matt. I’m on the road now – my first major long term trip by myself and am hitting a bit of a rut. I have literally been sick for a month…Thai belly, then a sinus infection, a rash and then food poisoning (or something resembling such). I’m feeling a bit beaten up by S.E. Asia. I came back to read this post that I had already read before I left. I don’t want to pack it in though. This reminded me that it’s ok to be unsure of the road ahead as well. Thanks
Pais
I feel so relieved to find out lm not the only one with all these feelings!
I got to Australia from the UK 6 weeks ago and I am incredibly homesick! I have planned to be away for 12 months and thought I would absolutely love it.
I met a boyfriend a few months before I set off and he has been incredibly supportive, however, I can’t help thinking it would all be better with him here. I feel it would have been different if I hadn’t met him and I probably wouldn’t have gone home but now all I think about is going home and having routine and my family.
I also had to send a big chunk of my savings home after already not budgeting very well with what I had and now half my savings are gone and I haven’t even done anything exciting yet!
I’m really at a cross roads of whether to push ahead and see if it changes or to realise that I can’t just be having a bad day every single day of my trip.
I am currently working for accommodation at a hostel on the Sunshine Coast, it’s the first time I have stayed in a hostel. Maybe I should go somewhere else or organise a trip to meet other people?
Ahh!! Scared of failing and ending up depressed at home.
Ravi
Beautiful post. I spent 16 months living and travelling abroad and returned home last year. It was a strange thing to be back in the same place, but a completely different person from who I was. I completely understand what you mean when you say it doesn’t feel like home anymore. Travel really does bring out this new person with bigger ambitions and the sense of adventure only grows stronger. Maybe somewhere will be home some day, but you owe it to yourself to let adventure flourish while the mood is there.
Danielle Martincich
Hi Matt
THANK YOU! I needed this post. In April i was in Australia and was only sad and “homesick” on the day i was supposed to go home because my plane was delayed by a day. However i am abroad and your post made me realise that whatever decision I make – well that’s okay, because i have nothing to prove to anyone.
Im new to your blogs and this is the first of many. xx
Josie C.
Thank you. I made the choice of leaving home to go to college 10 hours away. (I’m the first in my family to do so.) I’ve learned that I don’t like being away from my family, that small towns (I’m from a 5+mil population and my school is located in a under 6,000 population.), and that I can be happy some where else. Your article about your travels has really helped me, in realizing that by moving away (for no matter how long) has taught me many things, one being that I don’t want to be so far from my family. I’ve been experiencing a lot negative support from family members, who tell me to “stick it out” for a year, but as the days go on, I’ve learned that by “sticking it out” I am just barely surviving day to day and am not really living. Your article here has truly been a blessing. Thank you for realizing that you are in no way “giving-up” but instead moving to newer and better, and bigger.
Thank you for this article. Thank you for saying what some don’t. Thank you for reminding people that it doesn’t matter what people think, as long as it is the right choice for you.
James LeMaster
When I felt lost and confused from my life at home, I realized I had to get away from it all so I planned a trip to travel for an extended amount of time. I wanted to see what I’d miss, if what I was doing was what I wanted.
I’m about to be 4 months into the trip. For me juggling the idea of going home now, isn’t about not loving long-term travel. It’s about realizing I loved what I was doing home and I went to chase one dream and realized I was already living my dream at home.
Thanks for this post.
Anne
I stumbled across this while traveling on my first trip overseas.
I am 18 and have been away from home 1 month 2 weeks of those where with my mum and I’ve been now traveling with my close friend for 2 weeks. I feel completely homesick. The thoughts are all consuming and I just want to be at home. I know if I fly home to Australia it’s not likely I’ll make it back over here any time soon as the flights are so expensive. I’m stuck. When is it time to go home and when do you have to tough it out?
Maybe I’m not the type of person who deals with being away for along time. I don’t want to feel like a failure but I do want to go home. Part of me knows that if I go home I’ll be disappointed but the other part knows that I will be happy and I won’t have this terrible feeling anymore of homesickness.
It’s so confusing. But this artical told me if I do decide to go home – that I’m not a failure and I’ve had good times that have shaped me – and I’ll come back one day and complete what I have started.