Travel Goals

1. Climb to Everest Base Camp.
2. Climb Mt Kilimanjaro.
3. Learn to Scuba Dive.
4. Visit every continent.
5. See the Galapagos Islands.
6. Sail down the Amazon River.
7. Climb Ayer's Rock.
8. Ride the Trans-Siberian.
9. Go into space.
10. Go wild at La Tomintina.
11. See the sunrise from Mt. Fuji.
12. Gaze at Borobudor.
13. Visit the Pyramids
14. Safari in East Africa.
15. Go to the World Cup!
16. See Machu Picchu.
17. Join the Century Club.
18. Visit Antarctica.
19. Do development work.
20. See Petra Jordan.
21. Backpack the Eastern Block.
22. See the Northern Lights.
23. Vegas Baby! Vegas!
24. Greek Island hop.
25. Cycle Tuscany.
26. Visit India.
27. Lounge in the Seychelles.
28. See Morocco.
29. Oktoberfest!
30. Caravan across the Sahara.
31. Visit Tibet.
32. Fly first class.
33. Go to Israel.
34. Carnival!!!!
35. Mardi Gras!
36. Cannes Film Festival.
37. Sundance Film Festival.
38. Eat a sushi meal at NOBU
39. Pacific Island hop.
40. Spend a night in the Ice Hotel.
41. See Glacier National Park.

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I always get asked the same questions when I tell people I travel alone”

“Don’t you get lonely?” “Is it safe?” “How do you meet people?”

People are amazed that I’ve traveled so much by myself. “I couldn’t do, especially for so long.” They say. Yet I wouldn’t do it any other way.

People often assume that solo travel means alone travel. Far from it. I meet more people on the road than I ever thought possible. When I left to travel, I was worried that I’d go without meeting people or that it be extremely difficult to make friends. I was wrong on both accounts. You spend the first few hours alone but then it is a constant stream of new friends. I often can’t get away from people! I was meeting so many people that it sometimes was friend overload! Even when I wanted time alone, there was always someone around to chat up. Everyone I met was so friendly that I found it easy to make friends. Travelers make for kindred spirits. I recently got into this conversation with a co-worker, who was worried about this very thing. You meet people I said. You have too. Otherwise, you’ll spend all your time alone. Solo travel forces you out of that bubble. It forces you to get comfortable with talking to strangers because everyone you meet is one.

I met many people who said that when they were traveling with friends they found it harder to meet new people because they had someone to talk to and were less likely to make an effort. Going alone forces you to make new friends otherwise you wander bored and depressed. It brings you out of your shell and forces you to be comfortable saying hello to random strangers and adjust to new situations.

As you meet people on the road, you head to new destinations together. I picked up travel partners everywhere. I found roommates on boats, lifetime friends on beaches, and girlfriends on buses. I was always jetting off to new places with perfect strangers. It’s one of the most best things about traveling- the ability to constantly interact with people from all over the world. And if I didn’t like who I was with or where I was, I simply moved along.

That is one of the other great advantages of solo travel- flexibility. You go where you want when you want. Don’t like a town? Just leave! Simple. Beautiful. Easy. When you travel alone, you only have to answer to yourself. In away, it can make your more selfish because its all about you but the upside is that you discover you. You discover your likes, dislikes, all you can do, and can’t do. You learn to survive and adapt. You learn to deal with new cultures and calamities. Solo travel is the travel of self reliance.

However, don’t think I never want to travel with people. I travel to meet people, to discover new cultures, and make new friends. Sometimes you want to share that moment or share that adventure with someone. No one wants to always party alone or eat by themselves. But group travel has too many downsides for me. There’s too many opinion, needs, and desires. The larger the group, the worse it is. I rarely ever travel with more than four people. In the end, I always leave home alone, not because I’m a loner…far from it…but because I like to explore the world on my own terms. I love meeting new travelers and new people but I’d rather set out on that journey alone because, isn’t it all about self-discovery anyways?

9 Responses to “Solo Travel”

1. backpakker on June 18th, 2008 2:24 pm

   agree with you..however I have always liked to travel with one more person , its usually my husband or a friend or a cousin ..its just to share the joy of discovering something… when we travel with friends sometimes its quite difficult to accommodate every one

   lakshmi

2. Julie on June 18th, 2008 3:00 pm

   Matt-

   Whew. I could spend the next hour talking about my solo vs. group preferences, but they boil down to this.

   I used to be a tour director for an educational tourism country, which meant one thing: I led big groups around places and talked to them on a microphone from the front of the bus, which the vast majority of them appeared to hate. When I think about it, though, I’m amazed by some of the authentic moments of cultural contact I was able to create for and with them.

   I eventually quit the job though because those moments were so rare and those moments are the main reason why I travel.

   I agree with Lakshmi– though I sometimes find traveling with my husband maddening (mostly the packing and getting to the airport part), when I’m traveling alone I always find myself thinking, “I wish he was here so we could share this.” There’s nothing like having an experience or seeing something that blows your mind and having someone to talk with about it, though, as you say in the post, there are people everywhere– you just have to open yourself to them.

3. Anthony on June 18th, 2008 6:53 pm

   Great article man. I think most who travel solo do so to get away from routine and the people who they are always around, not to be entirely “solo”. Otherwise you’ll end up talking to a bloody faced volleyball on some remote island in the South Pacific and crying when it floats away.

   You also get to learn more about yourself. Your success and failures are yours to enjoy and best of all, like you mentioned: FLEXIBILITY!

   Cheers

4. Scribetrotter on June 19th, 2008 4:58 am

   The only ’solo’ part of solo is getting on that first plane. After that, staying alone is virtually impossible, I agree.

   If you’re on the backpacker trail, you’ll meet people instantly - registering at the hostel, sharing your room, in a suggested restaurant, on the beach… If you’re in rural Africa, crowds will follow you around because you’re such an oddity, and next thing you know you’ll be surrounded by most of the village. In big cities people will walk up to you and ask where you’re from. And you’ll make plans to meet up with people you’ve met on the road, further up. As for villagers and citizens of the lands you travel through, some will become lifelong friends, even if that friendship is limited to the occasional postcard exchange.

   I love to travel on my own because it gives me the freedom to do what I want, when I want. The thing is - I rarely end up doing it alone!

5. Cuckoo on June 19th, 2008 10:57 am

   Solo traveling culture is not very popular in India as such. Some might like to go in larger groups but I prefer not more than 3 as it becomes a crowd then.

6. trang on June 19th, 2008 11:59 am

   i like to travel with my best friend, but we don’t stick to each other like glue. we break off, meet our own set of new friends, regroup, and viola, double our friends base. i have such a wonderful time doing that because i feel very independent traveling by myself, but when i need a familiar face, she’s there.

7. Christine Gilbert on June 19th, 2008 3:28 pm

   I like both. Although I think solo travel forces you to interact with other people. When you travel in a group, its so easy to become a little bubble.

8. NomadicMatt on June 19th, 2008 3:36 pm

   @Lakshmi- I do like going with people but sometimes, it’s easy to do your own thing.

   @Julie (and Lakshmi)- There are plenty of moments you want to share people with. You don’t want to be alone all the time! What’s the fun in that! I hope I didn’t give them impression!

   @trang- great idea! A lot of people I’ve met have done that. They travel together for awhile then break up and then come back together. Because like Chistine just said, it’s easy to get into a little bubble.

9. Erica Johansson on June 24th, 2008 11:02 pm

   So far I’ve also left home alone and traveled on my own terms. But I’ve returned with so many new friends and experiences that it doesn’t feel like I’ve been alone during my journeys.

   It’s definitely about self-discovery. We learn most about ourselves and the world when we travel solo and are faced with new places, cultures, challenges, people, events…

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