Am I Really Just a Debbie Downer?

By Nomadic Matt | Published November 1st, 2012

rodin's the thinker - about lifeA few weeks ago, I ran a survey and some of you commented about how negative I’ve been. “Quit your whining,” they said.

Now, the comments did make me think a bit – have I been overly negative the past year? After all, I do get the occasional blog comment telling me to “slow down” or that I’m “just not as chipper” as I used to be. At least not as consistently chipper as I used to be (see my Japan and Portugal posts for chipperness).

And in a way those comments created a crisis of conscience – am I sad? Am I depressed? Am I jaded about travel? And as I reflected about it, I came to the self-realization that explains why you might think I’m complaining.

See, over the last year or so, I’ve become tired. I’ve been ready to settle down, have a routine, and become semi-nomadic.

But as you’ve noticed, I’ve kept traveling and haven’t really slowed down. (Well, I have now since I am finally home.) I think what has been subconsciously coming out over the last year is my desire on the one hand to be nomadic, and my desire to settle down on the other. I never really thought about how that turmoil might have shown in my writing until you (readers) brought it up.

Self-realization is as equally as depressing as it is enlightening. On the one hand, you’ve figured out a portion of yourself. On the other, you’ve figured out a portion of yourself and now you have to do something about it.

For me, it’s the tension between not wanting to be backpacker anymore and the desire to hold on to all I know.

If I’m not nomadic, if I’m not a backpacker, what am I? For the last 6 years, constant travel has been my life. It has been who I am and what I do. Everything before was just prologue. I once said I would never stop traveling and I never plan to. I love it too much. Constant travel is in some ways all I know. I feel like I’m walking away from a marriage and how does one just throw away a relationship?

Yet my heart hasn’t been in backpacking for a while. I’ve loved many places over the last year, I’ve had many good experiences and adventures, and made many amazing friends. But I walk into hostels ready to party and realize I can’t have that same conversation again. I don’t care where you’re from, how long you’ve been traveling, where you’ve been or where you’re going. I’d rather watch a movie. I change locations but the feeling doesn’t change. I’m not that interested in making any new 5-minute friends, I don’t care about how you found “some amazing local town”, and if I have to listen to someone snore or take a shit again, I’m going to lose it. I had this realization in Cambodia while writing my book, which was fine because I was “heading home.”

But when I try to break away, I get sad. I don’t want to give it up. I may not love it as much as I did, but I don’t hate it. I really do love meeting people, staying in hostels, exploring the world, and staying out until sunrise in some new land. But I feel like I’m the employee who no longer has the passion for the job – but still couldn’t imagine life without it.

And sitting around hostels, observing wide-eyed travelers fresh on the road, I’m constantly reminded what I’m missing out on and it makes me miss it even more. For all the talk about never chasing travel ghosts, I find myself chasing them everyday.

But what you’ve seen over the last year – the perceived negativity – has been, I am sad to say, my inner conflict between wanting to settle down and staying a backpacker and that conflict has emerged in my writings as that of a jaded traveler.

I was never trying to be negative in my writing. While my goal is to always be honest about travel because there are bad days on the road – days where nothing goes right and all you want to do is go back to what’s familiar. Life on the road is like life everywhere – there is good and bad.

I did what I needed to do with backpacking years ago. My journey around the world was ready to move forward to its logical next step – to become semi-nomadic. But it’s hard to change. Just as hard as it is to break out of the mold and jump out into the road, so too is it hard to settle back down into a routine.

But I’m home now. I’m settling into semi-nomadicism well and I like it. It’s hard. I haven’t been anywhere in three weeks and I’m going stir crazy. But I’m adjusting and, while my mind wanders back to the ghosts of the past, the present and future hold a new path to explore.

And I guess there is nothing about that to be jaded about. I suspect that turmoil and negativity you’ve noticed will evaporate out of my writing as I enjoy this new path unfolding before me.

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Tim Moon

Sounds like your travel style is evolving and maybe it’s time to step away from shared rooms and low-bandwidth friendships.

I’m glad to hear you’re finding your way although it can be confusing at times. For some people it is just as hard to settle down as it is to get out on the road…I agree with you 100% on that statement. I hope everything pans out as it’s supposed to and you, once again, find the total happiness in your life… :-)

We’re definitely on the same page. The question is: can you find something that makes you happy back in the states?

Kerrie

I haven’t travelled nearly as much as you, but I’m currently on the last few days of a 7 1/2 week trip around America and I want to be home gardening, restoring furniture, having conversations with people about things OTHER than travel!
I’ve evolved from the hostel and have been staying in apartments. I’ve still met people and had great conversations (mainly with taxi drivers). But there hasn’t been that awkward pretend ‘oh we’re going to be friends while we’re in this hostel and be friends in Facebook’ situation. It’s been refreshing to say the least!

7 1/2 weeks is too long to be by yourself though. Next time, 3 weeks tops. I can understand your situation. And I think you might have to start mixing it up a bit to save yourself! Good luck!

ian

Appreciate your honesty here Matt. What you’re realizing is that your edge has changed. It used to be backpacking around the world. Now it’s shifted, evolved, perhaps matured ;-) And the next frontier is calling you… not horizontally, but vertically. Best of luck.

Max Neumegen

Many people ask me “where do I recommend they go in the world”, and before they have finished asking the question I always say “home”.
And yes
I may be taking my own advice soon too.

I have been trying to give up the traveling, nomadic life for twenty years. I just love it too much to be able to ever give it up. Traveling is who I am, and is part of me. My suggestion to you would be to take a significant break. That is, establish a routine at home for a while, even if it means getting a drab office job for a while.

For the last few months, I’ve been traveling all over the country (even as far away as Ireland) for Expedia on this College Football Travel Tour. I’ve had a lot of fun but 5 different cities/country in 8 weeks has brought me to the same realization as you – I am tired. I’ve enjoyed some great football games and college towns. I’ve met some awesome people and have enjoyed writing travel guides for Expedia about all of these places. However, I miss home. I like having a place to call home.

I’ve realized I don’t ever want to be nomadic. I love coming home to my bed, having my own sense of security and routine, and enjoy the people I have in my life. I won’t give up traveling. This college football series with Expedia has been awesome – I am so privileged to do this. However, I understand what Dorothy meant now – there’s no place like home.

Feeling tired and fighting that battle of travel vs settling down is tough. It can affect your perspective. However, here’s hoping you find that balance and and meaning both in your travels and at home.

Sam

thanks for being so honest with us readers about this matt. i hope you find your way through this okay :) as i’m sure you will… perhaps it is just a case that you need some time at home and that will help clear your head. i don’t do long term travel, i’m almost always glad to be back in my own bed when i finish up my trip even if it has been amazing. there is just something about having your own bed, y’know? either way, good luck with whatever you decide to do from here :)

Life is all about change. Embrace it.

It’s really refreshing to read an honest post about the downsides to travel. I love travelling and always will, but I have always much preferred working somewhere and travelling as often as I can from that base. I have lived in Japan, Vietnam, Tenerife and Sweden in this way.

Last year I travelled around South America and I had a great time, but the shared rooms and five minute friendships get boring very quickly. As does the competitive nature and constant binge-drinking of other backpackers in the hostel.

I have just come back from Romania where I went to meet a friend who lives there. She introduced me to her local friends and expats who have been living in Romania for years. In five days I got more of a feeling for Romanian culture than in 6 months of South America where I mainly met other backpackers.

I hope you manage to find a balance in your semi-nomadic life.

Patrick Smith

This is a very honest, very heartfelt blog entry- thank you!! You are evolving and changing- something we all go through. I know you will figure it out, and I know you will give whatever you do your all- and I look forward to reading your entries and sharing it with you. Eric, who also commented, gives some really great ideas for you. I was going to write much of the same, but he beat me to it- good for him as he expressed the ideas better than I would have. In the late 70′s I went through very similiar thoughts- figuring it out is actually very fun- it is what life is about.

Colleen

You are not a Debbie Downer. At all. No, you, from my point of view, tell it like you experience it and that’s part of what makes your website valuable to this reader.

I like that there’s a variety of tone, emotion, experiences, places, all kinds of articles. I think you can continue to be confident in just being yourself. I find incessent positivity . . .suspicious. We’re all multi-dimensional and have a wide variety of experiences on the road. The longer one travels, the wider that pool of experience will be. All the way from the sublime to the truly horrifying as your experience in that hostel documents this week.

I want to know what to expect, in truth. The ups, the downs, what lifted you the highest and what bothers you as an experienced traveler. I think Nomadic Matt has an optimal balance that accurately reflects the world of travel in it’s many aspects.

Maybe some people want to believe that when they finally do fulfill their dream of long-term travel that they will be free of all of the aggravations of normal living. What really happens is that you just upgrade those aggravations to a much better set. You trade boredom for the sometime stresses of adventure. The known for the unknown. The occasional fast food for regularly enjoying street food. Even if the road could be perfect, which it is not, though wonderful, there’s the old truism that wherever you go, there you are. Yes, you will still have to deal with your own unwelcome shortcomings on the road. An RTW plane ticket has no power to make those disappear overnight.

Don’t let the critics get you down, Matt. It takes guts to put yourself out there. Your site is one of the very best.

Colleen

I want to add the following. One thing that I think is important to realize is that life has its various seasons. I think it’s a mistake to think that you have to continue to love and live a life that worked for you for many years but no longer fits the man you’ve become.

As a regular reader of a handful of backpacking websites, one thing I’m consistently concerned about is travelers who are missing out on what, for me, has been the most rewarding part of life, which has been having a successful marriage and family. I have loved raising my family and will continue to love it until my sons launch. I love travel and have spent a total of a couple of years traveling through 40 countries. But as awesome and unquenchable as my great love for travel is, the most joy and the most growth have come from my committed relationships. That’s family. I wouldn’t want any young travelers, especially the women, to throw that away for a life on the road. One day you might wake up and realize it’s too late to build a family and be tsunami ed

Colleen

that’s tsunamied by regret.

I plan to hit the road again when my kids launch. But I’m really glad I’ve given much of my best years to building a family. That love will last and continue to feed my soul whether I’m on the road or at home.

Gypsy

Good for you for living your dreams! However, there are a number of families that are traveling with kids and spouses in tow. They are even having babies while traveling and loving it. The great thing about the experiences of this lifestyle or any lifestyle, is there are endless ways to do it and you can change up as time goes. Happy journeys!

Colleen

Thank you, Gypsy, for the encouragement! You are so right and our family’s experience confirms that. When our home educated sons were in 10th grade we sold our home and traveled on part of the equity for a year visiting 10 SE Asian countries and 10 in southern Europe, North Africa and the Middle East. We traded the security of a mostly paid-for crib for the time together seeing the world and enjoying each other as a family while the boys were still under our roof, or I guess for 2008-9, many roofs. = ) My husband is an RN and I’m a homemaker and neither of us had any other income sources other than home equity to fund our trip. It really can be done and btw, our sons lost no speed missing an entire year of formal high school academics. They just used their final 2 years of high school to rack up college credits via CLEP (College Board) examinations and graduated high school with 2 years of college credits in the bag. We are not in any way a ‘super-family’ but home-education can be super-efficient. We talk about our wonderful adventures all the time 3 years later. If anybody wants to see the world, can beats can’t everyday. This website is a tremendous resource for ideas on how to make it happen financially.

Belinda Schneider

I have always appreciated the honesty of your wrtings. You should tell it like it is. Being jaded is part of it. After traveling too long I realized I was rating sites as 5 or 10 minute sights. It was becoming the same old same old. Like watching the same movie or always reading the same book. You pretty well know what to expect. Life is about constantly evolving. Change is good. Change involves feelings of trepidation, excitement, fear, anxiety, hopefulness and curiosity as we face the unknown. Sometimes the change of cities or homes or job provides the stimulus we need…the recharging of our enthusiasm. Sometimes it is simply stepping back from whatever has become too familiar and predictable…taking time out to recalculate (as the GPS would say when you have veered away from the established route). Time out can be unnerving and make you crazy for a bit…like kicking any habit will do. But it creates the space to consider alternatives and to discover other possibilities that you might otherwise have missed. Even if it means looping back to what one did before, but with a new twist.
Good luck!!!!

Time for a new project Matt… This post reminds me of the mayonnaise jar story. In case you don’t know it, here it is:

“When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar… and the coffee…

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “yes.”

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, ” I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things-your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions-things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else-the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

***
Now you just have to figure out which one is travel… golf balls?

Ignore everyone! Please.

You are doing something rarely a person every does, so when you vent, most folks take it as complaint.

But it’s not. It’s an expression of your state and the trouble with blogging it or talking about it is that your audience will rarely be at that level to relate.

Evolve at your own pace. At least you’re growing, which is more than most folks out there.

Agree with other commenters, you’re just evolving! Don’t feel guilty because ultimately it’s your life. It’s only natural that you want to get some roots planted. I’m sure you’ll still have amazing adventures regardless. Good luck!!

I can relate to this post as it reminds me of how I felt when I made the decision to ‘quit’ (or at least stop pursuing actively) my music career. For years, music was my life, but in the end I had lost my passion for it. It started feeling more like a job than living out my dream, I just didn’t enjoy it the same way anymore. Which was okay, I had reached my goals and could move on knowing that I made my childhood dreams come true, but what was I gonna do next?! Ironically, I found my answer in travel and, recently, blogging. But who knows, maybe in a few years I’ll find myself writing a similar post.
When constant change becomes too familiar, maybe it’s time to embrace the next stage in life. I think it’s beautiful that you wrote about it honestly and I hope in the end it will be the same for you as it was for me; once I let go of that lifestyle, I found myself occasionally picking up my guitar and enjoy playing just for the sake of playing. I guess I’ll always be a musician at heart, just like you are a traveler :) I wish you the best of luck settling into your new life!

Thank you for sharing such an honest post! I think it was really brave of you to write this and one of the reasons I love your site so much is because of your honesty. Like you said, there are bad days of travel, and I really like that you showcase that side. I am so impressed that you have enough self-insight and guts to step away from what you know and find something to ignite your passion again. Best of luck and I look forward to reading about your new adventures in semi-nomadic life. And you can always jump on a plane if you need to!

I’m just starting out so I don’t mind having that same conversation over and over, but I could see how it would get old after 6 years. I hate to break the news, the conversations are exactly the same when you’re sedentary, too. Except, it’s all about “what you do” instead of where you’ve been. I wish someone would just tell me what they like to do for fun. Then maybe we could actually bond.

Amy

As someone who’s just about to embark on my first round the world trip, it’s hard to relate to this but very interesting to hear the thoughts of what very long-term travel can be like.

I don’t think you’re a Debbie Downer, just honest. Long term travel is tiring. Living in another country is tiring. It’s not for the faint of heart. I think that, given your title as one of the formost travel bloggers, you’re just being honest. And this, Matt, makes you credible and likeable.

At least you’ve identified the problem and can evaluate it. Ultimately you have to be happy and satisfied with what you are doing. I’m sure you’ll eventually find the right solution to make you happy, but until then I can keep living through everyone else’s travels as I’m temporarily grounded with young children. :)

Good luck!

Kia

We have been traveling (as a family) for 5 months now, and it is EXHAUSTING! I’ve been reading your blog for years and I haven’t found it depressing – just refreshingly honest. I’m impressed that you didn’t achieve critical mass as a hostel-dwelling, room-sharing, party maven nomad a LONG time ago. Nothing wrong with “maturing” as a traveler and sharing the process with your readers!

I’m at the end of my fifth year and feeling some of the same internal conflict. I gave up my home at the end of 2007 and there is no base to go back to. I think I will settle down when I find the right place….but where is that? And who will I be there?

NomadicMatt

Thanks for all the great comments and support! Life moves and changes and so must we all!

Yeah!

Hey Matt :)

Funny i just found your Blog and you are in a state i just came out of.
The problem with stoping travel is not stoping, the problem is staying.

Comming home is awesome, see family and friends, go to familypartys, have your own bed bathroom and enjoy solitude, spend days watching movies on the comfyst couch, talking to people you are realy interestet in and they are in you , it was awsome and after 4 months home i already thought “i made it , not like the other long term travelers, i can stay home”

But the Boomer still came and lastet about 2 months, just came out of a deep deep valley of destruktive “what i´m gonna do with my life,i can´t stay here “thoughts

The help for me was to find a new project (or 3-4) learn a new language, a new sport or build a house, start a family(but please don´t move to often when your kids are in school , my parents did that and i hated it, and still think i carry around some damages from that (1st world problems ;) )

I would highly appreciate it if you tell us how you feel at home and when you come to the crisis (it will come, be prepared) tell us how you find your way out, i´m sure all travellers can profit from that :D

i´m home 6 months and still sick of hostel Talk ;)
happy home sweet home
Anne :)

Matt, thanks for being so honest and open. I know it’s not easy to do. Just realizing and embracing that feeling of being down, I think you’re on your way up and out of it.

I’ve only been on the road for 5 months, backpacking around Europe. I’ve had minor ups and downs, and recently I found myself feeling the same way you do. So I decided to settle into Belgrade, Serbia and stay for a month. Just live, surround myself with more locals than travelers, and feel like I’m part of the community. Having that sense of belonging and community has really helped.

I agree w/ some of the other commenters — probably time for a new project!

When people are stuck, I always suggest they get out of their routine, go travel, go on a pilgrimage of sorts. Your situation poses an interesting question — What do travelers do when they’re stuck? Is it find a routine and stay put?

It sounds like you have “Can’t live with it, can’t live without it” problem. I’m sure you’ll work it out by being at home, it’s great to take it easy and just reflect on where you’ve been and the direction you’re going to take now. Good luck!

MAN! You can’t like every place you go….. I never found you to be a debbie downer in your writing. I just hated being in Santorini and I was only there for 6 hours.

When I read your blog. It’s more of a veteran travellers perspective. You’ve been doing this long enough that anyone would be tired of the same questions & five minute friends.

To me this sounds like the next evolution. You just got a six-year PHD in budget travel. It’s not the only kind of travel you can do.

If I was in your shoes, I might look for a new challenge. six months in a place no one has heard of? Spend time somewhere focusing on a new skill. Wakeboarding? A language? Apprentice chef in Tuscany or Thailand? etc… Where does Matt really want to grow?

NomadicMatt

Good question but more unique travel experiences is definitely in my future.

Sounds like you’re just getting older. I think you’re about the same age as I am (28), I spent the first half of my twenties seeing the world. It was like I couldn’t get enough of it, but eventually I started to have similar feelings to you. I wanted to settle down more, have a routine, have a house, all that jazz. There are days that I ache to get back on the road and leave the routine behind, but overall I think I’ve found a happy compromise. Sounds like you’re in a transition period, it’ll be difficult for a little while but eventually you too will find your happy compromise. You’ll figure out how to scratch the travel itch while still maintaining the roots you’ve planted.

Keep at it!
Craig

Wow – How’s that for some cosmic synchronicity? I’ve gone through pretty much the same inner battle for the last year, and I’m now on the semi-nomadic path, after a similar 6 years of full-time travel.

NomadicMatt

Great minds think alike!

Sherry

You’re just growing and changing…it happens to all of us. Holding on to what no longer works for you just won’t work any longer…There are new and brighter days ahead.

Laura

What you’re experiencing is getting older – I’m sure many of your friends are getting married, having children and generally progressing in their careers. It’s natural as you approach your 30s to feel the need to start settling down but also having that desire to hold on to the youth.

I’m struggling with that at the moment as well. I don’t know if we ever stop this internal struggle.

I think it makes sense that your kind of burned out. I’m just about to start my traveling and I intend to do it for about the same time (5-6ish years) but I think for most people there comes a point when you just need a base. Some place to set some roots down again. I don’t think that’s you being moany though!

I’m glad you’re choosing to do what you want to do. It’s amazing how hard a thing that is to do sometimes. When I see other people doing that, that’s what inspires me.

NomadicMatt

If I had a boat
I’d go out on the ocean
And if I had a pony
I’d ride him on my boat
And we could all together
Go out on the ocean
Me upon my pony on my boat

Matt, this post has resonated with me. As someone who desperately wants to see as much of the world as possible, I have realised that I don’t want to be away for months and months or even years on end… I want to go and travel for a period of time, say anything from a week to a month, and come back home… to the people who matter to me and to whom I want to tell my stories to.

I’ve no doubt you will still travel lots and so will still have many stories and travel tips to share, but it’s nice having that base to come back to, chill and relax in between trips.

jan

Whatever you end up doing, keep us in the loop. It is interesting to see where long term travel takes people. I suspect the opportunities are endless. I look forward to hearing about your ups and downs.

Matt, we started feeling the same way after just 18 months. We’ve been on a couple of trips over a year and it does feel good to settle down sometimes. Semi-nomadicism is actually great and we like it that way. A vacation from the vacation.
Enjoy it.
I’ll be looking for a change in url to http://www.semi-nomadicmatt.com

Matt, I can completely relate to this post, and I don’t think you’ve been overly-negative.

Sometime it’s hard to admit that places don’t live up to our expectations, especially when it’s a place that has a widespread reputation. I’ve been traveling around South America for close to a year now, and for the first few months of my trip, I was really excited to get to Bolivia. I had heard wonderful things about it, and most backpackers that I met told me it was their favourite South American country. But when I got there, I was let down. Sure, the country was beautiful, but I found it chaotic, crowded, and dirty. I felt ashamed for admitting it (was I looking down on a place for being less developed?), but I just couldn’t wait to get out of there. Yet, looking back, I now realize that I don’t need to love every place I visit. Different travelers have different interests. Just like so many people love the party surf towns, whereas I know off the bat that those places aren’t going to be my favourite. I admire you for being honest about your thoughts on different places, and while I don’t always agree with your opinions, it’s refreshing to hear them.

On another note, I couldn’t agree more about how tiring this conversation gets:
” But I walk into hostels ready to party and realize I can’t have that same conversation again. I don’t care where you’re from, how long you’ve been traveling, where you’ve been or where you’re going. ”

Yet, just like you, it becomes a natural part of my daily interaction, and even though I’m sick and tired of some of the disrespectful behaviour in hostels, I know that I’ll still be returning on them for the next couple of years.

Being semi-nomadic may be a great change for you, but whatever decisions you end up making, I know that travel will always be a huge part of your life!

Ellen

I have never been nomadic like you, but ask any travel writer and I think you’ll discover that it’s a hard field to walk away from. I tried, but have come back to it. I don’t do nearly as much actual travel as I used to, and I never stay in hostels when I do, but I am still fascinated by all aspects of travel.
I agree with other comments about taking a break for a while. There’s no point to travelling if you’re not enjoying it.

Thanks for sharing! I feel you on the not quite being one thing or the other. To be honest I was really scared about coming home and if I’d hate it and be stuck. What I’ve found is that settling into a place of your own is way better than staying in someone else’s home. It feels pretty great. You can leave it when you want & work in your undies as much as you want.

I’m glad I did what scared me, like you, I was going through the motions being of something my heart wasn’t quite into. I’m glad I’ve hung up my pack for a while, but it’s still there for when I ready to use it next.

monkgonemad

You never were a traveler Matt, that is why you tired of it so quickly. As someone who is decades older snd has decades more road time, you are a titty baby traveler. Your blog as most backpacker blogs is utterly worthless to any serious hobo.

The problem is that this stupid blog is more important than your experiences. Not suprising from a man who show-boated his way around the world.

So many people see themselves as travelers the moment they step out the door. Talk to me after living outside your home country for a decade and working at least 18mos at some sort of job.

Everyone you meet these days, they know everything, they have blogs and the blogs do more no more than illuminate what crappy travelers they are.

You are tired of the road because you never belonged there. Now get your rollbag and get the F out. Take your MBA ass off to some corporation snd start firing people.

Now get me a room at the Raffles and where are my banana crepes!

Wah wah wah

NomadicMatt

Awww, this argument? Really? Yes, I bow down to your travel superiority. You are such a better traveler than anyone else because you hitchhike, camp, are a hobo, or whatever. That’s what travel is really about. I had no idea there was a time requirement for being a traveler. Do I need to wear fisherman pants too? What kind of tent should I have?

I mean I know I am such a crappy traveler, especially since as you say I blog about my travels, even though it was 2 years into my trip before I started blogging and that I spent over a year living in Asia as an English teacher, but let’s not let facts cloud our hubris.

Anyways, thanks for enlightening me so much! I was about to purchase a room at Raffles but now I see the error of my ways!

I’m glad to know I’ve been doing it wrong all these years.

monkgonemad

What a childish response. You have such a silly bloated ego. Europe aside, most self respecting travelers would not step foot in a dorm. But you opine…so tired of them, of the people, the same discussions…Well wtf are you doing there in the first place?

Sounds like you have been trying your best to establish a cult of personality around yourself. Not happening. You are (were) addicted to sitting around titty baby traveler joints so as to tell everyone – yeah, I’m Matt…see my videos? Oh well, here I happen to have a player in case you hadn’t. Famous for being famous – except you are not famous.

A few weeks ago I did a survey – about….ME! pfffffftt.

You blog sucks. It lacks any sort of valuable information. Some of your tips are a waste of money, some are just stupid and some downright dangerous.

It is very clear to see this blog is about money.The purpose of this blog, 100% is money. There is not even any love in it. Its just vanity and money.

It’s not that I am such a great traveler; it’s that you are such a poor one. You are hearby ordered to return to white suburbia.

Five yea

NomadicMatt

Actually, the survey wasn’t about me it was about the blog and what I could do to make it better for the people who the read the blog.

Anyways, thanks for the feedback. I’m not here to try to one up you. I really don’t care about how or why you travel. It’s not very important to do me. Go your own way, I’ll go mine and if you don’t like it, don’t read. I’m not here pretending or faking anything. This is how I travel, this is what I do to save money, agree or disagree. Your opinion.

But saying teaching is not a job degrades every teacher around the world. I’m sure your teachers would love to hear you say what they didn’t wasn’t work. If you are so old and wise, you should be more respectful.

I was going to write quite a detailed comment here, but then I realised it had pretty much been covered above. It’s a balance between writing for you and writing for your audience, but at the end of the day, you have to write what you want to write. I’d rather an honest piece written by you, in whatever “space” you’re in at that time of your life rather than something artificial. I think that you’ve certainly found the right balance.

monkgonemad

Oh, teaching English is not a job. So it appears I did nail it.

Two years…so all told, it’s been five years and for the last two years you’ve’tired’ of it.

Great, kill the blog and go get a job in Marketing.

Spare us all and please no more surveys about yoursekf or I will have to report it to Gawker. That is insane.

You grow, Matt, and… change. Like everyone else.

NomadicMatt

Such is life, right?

Vijai Bhola

I like your honesty and introspectiveness.

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